Few days back I read this article on Quora and wanted to share it on my blog. I also shared it amongst my friends via email and got reply mentioned below.
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I have a female friend, aged 26.
She is being forced by her parents to meet some guys and get married.
We had this conversation at a coffee table:
She : Oh! my parents. They want me to get married.
Me : Ya..this happens in India with every girl who turns 25
She : Why girls? You are of my age. Are your parents forcing you for marriage?
Me : No. Not yet. I think they will do in a couple of years
She: Exactly. I too want to get married after a couple of years. I have some career plans, want to travel like you and do lot of things before I get married.
Me : That’s nice. Try convincing your parents once.
She : I can’t understand my parents! They are so orthodox. I mean..we all talk about gender equality..and this is how our previous generation thinks! Kuch nahi ho sakta is desh ka (Nothing good can happen in this country). You boys have all the privilege. I hate this system.
Me : Hmm..anyway did you like the last guy you met?
She : No.
Me : Why?
She : (Chuckles) Utna to main kamaati hoon. (I earn almost equal). The guy I will marry should earn more than me and should be more intelligent. In the end, these are basic requirements.
Me : Oh…I thought we were talking about equality!
End of conversation.
Well carved end. But in reality things might be different and aspirations are also different. A girl who don’t want to marry should oppress to anything related to marriage which shows you are already into the trap and now they ( parents) will try to create excitement in your life by showing and demonstrating boys to you leaving everything to the system. And the system works its way to someone you want. And eventually you end up marrying.
What I am trying to say is that if you really want to do something you should be very vocal and let it be all over you so that everyone near you thinks it’s very difficult to convince him/her. Be ready to face the consequences as you have taken the decision. Be ready to live your life independently.